Confident Woman e-zine Create the Life You Want to Live
September 2006


With fall approaching, this is a great time to think about what you want to create, accomplish, be, or do before the year is over. Read the article below to get a jump-start on your path to success.

To your health, happiness and success,


In this Issue
  • Book Release Party: 9/21, San Francisco
  • Seven Steps to Creating Change in Your Life
  • Success Stories
  • Thank You

  • Seven Steps to Creating Change in Your Life

    What could you change about your life that would dramatically improve your life? Perhaps you want more money, more free time or to fit back into your skinny jeans?

    Whatever you decide, the following action plan will give you a jump-start on your path to success:

    1. Vision – what do you want? I mean, what do you really want? If you’re like many people, the thought of change may stir up those all-too-familiar negative thoughts of fear, doubt, worry or guilt. Instead of focusing on these gremlins, stand up, shut your eyes and take a long, slow, deep breath. Inhale through through your nose and exhale through your mouth. As you exhale, push the breath down through your head, through your neck, your shoulders, your chest, your abdomen, your pelvis, your thighs, your shins, your ankles and, eventually, all the way down through your feet and into the earth. Now, repeat this ten times. Each time you exhale, ground your feet more firmly to the earth. Imagine your body is a tree and your feet are the roots and each breath spreads your roots further and deeper into the ground.

    Now that you've grounded yourself, ask yourself: what is it that you really want? What will that get you? What’s important about this?

    2. Target Date – now that you’ve figured out what you really want, set a target date for completing this goal. Perhaps it’s one month, two months or by the end of this year. A good way to determine whether or not your target date is realistic is to say your goal and target date out-loud. If you can say it with a straight face yet it still feels like a challenge, then you’ve got a good target date. If not, you’ll want to take some more time to examine what target date really works for you.

    3. Small Steps – completing small steps each week boosts your confidence, energy and motivation. Create a chart, diagram or collage that will help you to gauge your progress - one week at a time - all the way to the eventual completion of your goal. Be sure to include how you’ll reward yourself once you have completed your goal.

    4. Direction – your chart, diagram or collage includes all the ingredients needed for success. Simply refer to this tool at the beginning and end of each day to review how far you've come. You can represent your progress with percentages, different colors or smiley faces. All that matters is that the measurement tool works for you.

    5. Accountability – find an accountability partner - someone who will ask you every week about your successes and challenges and what’s next. Keep in mind that the people closest to you may not be your best accountability partners. Your spouse or best friend may not always be thrilled that you’ve decided to go the gym every day or spend extra time at the office – at the expense of spending time with them. Or your business partner may find that the daily demands of her job get in the way of truly holding you accountable to leaving the office early. Instead, consider finding an accountability partner who has more detachment and who, at the same time, clearly understand the importance you’re placing on your goals.

    6. Reflection – if the end of the week rolls around and you’ve achieved your weekly goal, great! If you haven’t reached your weekly goal, all is not lost. This is a valuable time for reflection. What did you learn by not reaching your weekly goal? What will work better next time?

    7. Celebration – congratulations on a job well done! One of the most important parts of the action plan is rewarding yourself when you have succeeded. What reward did you choose at the outset? Whatever it is, relish in it, bask in it, drink it up or soak it in. You deserve it.

    Amber Rosenberg is the principal of Pacific Life Coach, a life and business coaching company that guides entrepreneurs, small business owners and other professionals to success on their own terms doing what they love. She is a contributor to the book 'Inspiration to Realization', a self-help book for women, a popular speaker, and a writer for Know Yourself Magazine. She also has 10 years marketing and PR experience for Fortune 500 companies and non-profit organizations. To sign-up for a COMPLIMENTARY half-hour phone coaching session, order a signed copy of her book or sign-up for the Confident Woman FREE monthly e-zine, go to

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    Book Release Party: 9/21, San Francisco

    Book Release Party:
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    About the Book: I'm a contributing author to the women's self-help book "Inspiration to Realization."

    Reviewed by Entrepreneur Magazine as 'summer's best bets for women', My chapter is called: ‘How to Manage Your Love/Hate Relationship with Time’.

    Other chapters focus on: how to say ‘no’ without feeling guilty; tools to discover your secret weapon against stress; how to turn your small business into a brand-name success and much more.

    “The collective wisdom in this book is a critical resource for women who want to bring joy and fulfillment into their lives...every day."
    -- Ruth King, Author, The Ugly Truth about Small Business

    Success Stories:
    "Before coaching, I was living my life on auto-pilot. While it was easy and safe, I always had a nagging feeling that I could do more. Through my work with Amber, I've learned how to make intentional choices and have developed a newfound confidence that allows me to present my best self to the world."
    -- Engineer, London, UK

    "As an over-achiever with workaholic tendencies, my coaching with Amber has helped me to slow down, figure out what's important to me and enjoy life more than I have in five years."
    -- Fortune 500 Executive, Boston, MA

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